Among Friends, Family and Company
Author, LaVerne A. Smith-Bell
With all that is going on today with steadily changing morals and values, many couples in this day and age share many intimidating thoughts of entering into a binding relationship such as marriage. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual is a straightforward and down-to-earth approach to sustaining a marriage or relationship with the help of just twenty-six promises. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual is about succeeding happily in a marriage relationship by discussing, living up to the promises outlined, maintaining an open and shared journal of individual issues, concerns, successes and failures between couples. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual accepts the premise that a marital relationship for many is a relationship that does not have to be between a man and a woman but can be a same-sex partnership as well.
The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual taps into the core of misunderstandings and mistakes that can and do happen whenever two people attempt to become one. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual recommends couple honesty and suggests an interactive approach to discussing and communicating effectively within the various topics. A through Z. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual is designed to challenge couples in their relationship and to open up and feel free to communicate with each other on the best of levels. In an effort to enhance couples communication skills and spending quality time together, The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual provides also a 76-item soul-searching questionnaire, advantages and disadvantages list, note-taking section, sharing of notes and in addition to promises that should not be broken under any circumstance. Each promise is discussed in detail.
The Newlyweds’ Promises to Keep Manual is just what it says, a manual of promises – promises that are made by the newlywed to each other. Promises, a vow, that in this marriage something negative, an action, deed or statement will not happen. The promises are written to inform couples of the possible hurt and humiliation responses to actions and decision made selfishly by one or the other partner without thought of the consequence of the latter. These tyrannical or withdrawn responses to the hurt and humiliation responses have no other recourse but to affect the marital relationship negatively. And, even though in many cases, one can forgive but never forget especially if it hurts bad enough. The marriage will, no doubt, shift from happy and respectful to hostile, untrusting and distant, and eventual failure of the marriage.
The Newlywed’s Promises To Keep Manual can be a useful tool of topics to discuss pre-marital concerns with a qualified marital counselor. The author suggests that couples should seek pre-marital counseling regardless of how solid the couple feels their relationship. An action, decision or slight difference of opinion can be catastrophic to a marriage because unless prior discussion has taken place one individual partner does not realize how much value the other partner envisions the subject matter. The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual attempts to cover many of the adversarial subjects that lay dormant in marriage which many couples are confronted in later stages of the marriage.
Many things can happen in a marriage whether it is one to many years of marriage. We all know that initially, some of us, are not our true selves during courtship. Of course, we tend to put our best foot forward to get what we want. But, then when we get it . . . you know the rest of the story. It is true that we really do not know one another until we have lived together. Some problems, difference of opinion, are bound to surface whenever two people decide to co-habitate. It should be mentioned here that we are not talking about normalcy. We are talking when needed discussions become heated discussions, argumentative and then lead to physical and/or emotional abuse for the male or female partner. Discussions have become low-down, dirty and antagonistic.
The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual is about improving two-way communication and going the extra mile to maintain true happiness, love and respect for each individual in the relationship. Keeping your heart open and spirit uplifted enough to leave the doors open for the love and respect that originally brought the couple together in the first place. The objective of The Newlyweds’ Promises To Keep Manual is to provide a set of rules, promises, to guide couples away from turmoil and eventual disillusion of their marriage. Marriage is an institution, a business if you will, that can bring joy, peace, love respect and prosperity by following a few simple sets of promises, A through Z.
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LaVerne has worked as a program supervisor and therapeutic clinician in the mental health field dealing with various aspects of individual and family crisis intervention. She is the mother of four adult children, grandmother of seven and owner of two adorable Shih Tzu puppies, Sebastian (R.I.P., 02/20/2008) and Beethoven. She has been married for 40 years and is an avid gardener.
In her spare time she works as a Chicago Public School Teacher and volunteers for a Chicago radio station as an educational outreach docent, a television station phonathon operator, Odyssey Health Care, a hospice patient care center, for whom she knits and crochets needed items of apparel and former board member of a Chicago youth center in Lawndale. Her volunteer endeavors have included agencies such as Mt. Sinai Hospital, Chicago Department on Aging, eta Creative Arts Foundation, The New Regal Theatre and The Goodman Theatre. Ms. Bell is also a community activist. Ms. Bell created her 168-year family tree history booklet which was delivered to her family at their 1999 family reunion.
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